Communicating 2016-25

Communicating 2016-25

This is a much discussed subject at times. Either we do or we do NOT communicate with each other at times. My friend Dan Webster, states that communication is the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing or signs.

Of course the method of HOW we communicate is also part of the equation of communicating. We do so by using the telephone, radio, TV or even the archaic way of using the telegraph. Add to that the personal computer or call it the “smart phone” as a separate and new way, plus any other means of sending ideas, orders, etc. of an everyday life of existence.

There is a whole bunch of info on this word and I would hope you would research more by going places (like Wikipedia) that will bore you to death (like this blog??) about the subject. My intent is not to do so, but it might happen.

I want to key in on one facet of communication. The act of doing so with those we know, such as family members, those at work and especially those we live with daily.

It is SO important to interact with those we know on a regular basis. It is MORE important that we do so in a civil way and not in a way of animosity or anger that is a destroying way of expression. It is important for family members to understand communication as a trusted way which leads to a well-constructed family; simple as that or not as simple in reality.

I remember someone that HATED the word communication. I know now that I was breaking one of the rules of communication and was actually “preaching” instead of communicating. No wonder that person was so upset, nobody likes to be preached to instead of just talking to in a constructive manner.

There are so many other rules we must consider when communicating to someone. Watching out for ambiguity of words or phrases is one. Another is physical location where there is distance as something to consider. Strange or difficult words or understanding linguistic abilities is something we have to throw into the equation of talking to someone. The barriers of physiological means such as hearing loss or other disabilities are also a factor. A big one is the cultural differences of people from different parts of the country, dialects, etc. is something that has to be taken into account.

You get the idea. There are many barriers to understanding that lead to the failure to communicate to each other in a normal way. Where I try to say something and am not understood, I am partly to blame at times and for this I am sorry.  It is also a two way street and the other person could try to meet me part way to communicating in a civil, normal, understanding way to make our talk, one of understanding each other; even if we do NOT agree with what we are saying at the time. This is something to consider when discussing politics —- keep the anger out if you can………

Den Betts

Coffee House Reflections 2016-20

A long ago visit with my son, (OK, 10 plus years, at least)  to a Cleveland Hts., Oh, coffee house and this made me think the below thoughts of the visit. This was actually before Starbucks was the norm. That statement dates me, but it was a different experience then, but one I cherish as being with and part of my son’s life then.

 Coffee House Reflections  2016-20

A melting pot of God’s creations

as Army green jacketed youth

rub elbows with English tweeded

professors at worn tables.


“I’ll walk a mile for a camel” or similar,

mingled with McBarrons Golden

Extra”, drifting upwards in an

aromatic misty cloud.


A corner with an old“Playboy” competes

with a “Wall Street Journal” as

a free “Arts and Entertainment”

struggle for survival.


Mocha Café topped with frosty

white, enticing those waiting

for a seat; a smell then taste

of salivating glory.


Politics and sports talk abound

mixed with one man’s answer to the

worlds problems with a woman’s

rebuttal in the fray.


A conservative Van Dyke peeks

over a crossword puzzle,

listening to a boisterous

pony tailed with diamond in ear.


Studs strut and belles preen

as a well-dressed lad studies

a cranberry tea, looking at a

whirlwind of his inner life.


Discussions, arguments and

such, agreements then palliation

with an orgasmic understanding

and comprehension of selves.


A melding of minds, races, ages

and dress, combining to form

a clutch of coffee

drunkards; living life.


Den Betts